I am an introvert

Some excerpts from a very interesting article by Jonathan Rauch, a self-admitted introvert. And here's an interview with him too.

Every word of that article is spot on for me. I cannot do small talk, I don't mind being with other people, but I'd really rather not have to participate too much.

And the Sartre quote... T and my family know they should leave me alone in the morning if they don't want to be subjected to inarticulate growling from me. Although they often forget and that really is very annoying.

Introverts are also not misanthropic, though some of us do go along with Sartre as far as to say "Hell is other people at breakfast." Rather, introverts are people who find other people tiring.

...after an hour or two of being socially "on," we introverts need to turn off and recharge.

For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating. Our motto: "I'm okay, you're okay—in small doses."

Extroverts have little or no grasp of introversion.[...] They cannot imagine why someone would need to be alone; indeed, they often take umbrage at the suggestion.

"People person" is a compliment. Introverts are described with words like "guarded," "loner," "reserved," "taciturn," "self-contained," "private"—narrow, ungenerous words, words that suggest emotional parsimony and smallness of personality.

I suppose this common misconception [that introverts are arrogant] has to do with our being more intelligent, more reflective, more independent, more level-headed, more refined, and more sensitive than extroverts. Also, it is probably due to our lack of small talk, a lack that extroverts often mistake for disdain.

Wednesday, March 08, 2006 posted by Wardi @ 6:57 PM