To whom it may concern

"Every year I want to accomplish things that will make me a better person, and every year I struggle and fail."
You know who you are. ;-)

This bit just struck a chord with me. Isn't it odd that we're always trying to do things to be better people??

Does it make you a better person to be tidy (I think T would love me to have that as a resolution...), or lose weight or eat more healthily (my resolution, ha!) or read the paper every day??

I don't think so.

Being a good person has nothing to do with the things you do, but more perhaps why you do them. If you do them to live up to your own or other people's expectations, then I don't believe it makes you a better person. Cause you're not really doing it for you, are you??

For example, I am a pretty messy person, and I seem to thrive with a certain amount of chaos. T is the exact opposite, so I try to be more tidy, so it doesn't annoy him. But I don't think I'm a better person because of it.

I know, doing something to be nice to other people, make them happy, will make you look better in their eyes (and your own?). But does it make you a better person??

I'm not questioning your 'motives' or your sincerity in the things you want to do, to be a better person. It's more of a philosophical wondering about what makes you a better person. And it might just be that you will be a better person for it.

Being good has an infinite number of definitions, doesn't it??

Thursday, January 05, 2006 posted by Wardi @ 3:11 PM